All parents wish the best for their children and impart their generational knowledge to them – it is basic human nature. However, it is often unintentionally impacted by their daily life struggles.

Many a times, we have heard our parents compare how easy our lives are compared to their hardships, and how we take it all for granted. While their intentions are benign, their focus is mainly on the material comforts.

In the process of ensuring a luxurious lifestyle for their children, their own emotional and mental wellbeing often takes a back seat – becoming an overlooked and ignored baggage. Unfortunately, this heavy baggage trickles down through generations without their realization, and gets embedded in the learning passed on to the next generation.

These generational traumas are hardly discussed out in the open, as they are often very personal. However, the general idea behind these is pretty common. As soon as they became parents, their focus completely shifted from themselves to the wellbeing of the future generation. This sudden transition is not easy, and creates a mental rift which only widens with time. This results in an unwanted sense of resentment – leading to the unfair comparison between the lifestyles of two different generations.

It’s high time that this chain is broken, and we ensure that we don’t pass along the same resentment to our future generation. It is our duty to shield our future generations from these generational traumas. But the question remains – how do we do it?

Give time to oneself – one’s own emotional and mental wellbeing. We need to learn to manage our own anxiety and stress and get out of our own traumas before addressing those of our future generation. Ignoring our own wellbeing and investing all our time and effort in our children will only keep passing on the generational trauma, continuing the vicious cycle.

INVEST IN YOURSELF FIRST – AND THEN ON YOUR NEXT OF KIN

IT’S NOT SELFISH – RATHER IT’S HOW YOU STRENGTHEN YOUR CHILD FROM WITHIN